There is a problematic Zulu adage that says ‘indoda ayikhali’, which means “a man doesn’t cry”. I’ve witnessed men, and women, say this to little boys whenever they shed even the slightest tear. This illustrates the type of masculinity that Black men are encouraged to not only espouse but also perform. Socially and culturally constructed notions of manhood dehumanise men by limiting their ways of being. Men have been taught that to be ‘a man’ is to be angry, callous, and lacking in ‘softer’ emotions such as empathy and melancholy.